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May 05 Gulab bai Gargi: Ajun Jeevanta Ahe.. is a real life story of Gulab Tripathi. Born in 1914 in a small village near Allahabad. Gulabbai Tripathi was only 11 when she conducted funeral
and death rites for the first time after the death of her father. For 70-odd years, she was in charge of a crematorium in Allahabad,
which she made her home. The author of this book has very aptly penned "When I got to know her, I
realised that we — women in cities — only talk about women's liberation in our
ivory towers. Gulabbai may not have known the jargon of women's rights and liberation, but she
put this `liberation' into action. "Just as, in Vedic times, Gargi boldly
questioned the intellect of Yajnavalkya in a Brahmin gathering, Gulabbai
questioned the Brahmin gurus of our era. "Why can a woman not undertake last
rites, she asked. She built her own ghat on the banks of the Ganga and served
society for 70 years." September 13 good byeIn the midst of loneliness your letters I see, for those sweet nothings you wrote for me. Every word you wrote I thought was so true for they told me how special I was for you. Even today I treasure them once upon a time you wrote with these memories of lifetime I leave this note..... January 19 Why do gurls come with a "best before" tag
Well, the wedding seasons have started already... yess it is "The Wedding Seasons" and not marriage season... Coz nowadays people wed and not marry. The parties are thrown lavishly and then the nuptials done in rather pompous manner. The best meeting ground for the singletons or rather the eligible ones. The whose who’s and the daughters, sons, nephews and the nieces of so and so get to meet, introduce each other and all this is always carried off as if it is a coincidence or btw types..
While reading “for matrimonial purposes” by kavita daswani a story of a young gurl ‘Anju’. This book is about Anju’s experiences or rather to glorify it a bit her journey from the day of onset into puberty to finally finding a suitable boy for marriage. I was so very much able to relate to the book myself that, I think it is what most of the gurls parents or the gurl herself goes through as she nears end of the “best before” tag. But at the same time I found that in this case Anju demeaning her own life just because she is not able to find a guy for herself. An intelligent, warm, smart gurl like Anju (lets say Anju is a classic example or represents the “wrong side of twenties community”) state that “how can I call myself independent when I am not able to find a guy for myself without my parents help?” I am really surprised that even today gurls independence is defined by her marital status and not her thoughts, views, her ability to take decisions, her career etc. Marrying a wrong guy and getting divorced is ok coz that at least proves that she has hit the fertility index once. Anju’s parents are shown in a constant state of frenzy, and considering their not finding a suitable son-in-law as a bad karma, adding to her guilt trips. Her flamboyant career as a fashion publicist is of no importance to neither her parents nor to any of the boy she meets in her tryst into matrimony alliances. The only thing guy is concerned even today is her expertise in cooking, cleaning, bearing his children. And not what she is like as a person… sad huh!
Anuj’s actually forced to accompany her parents to all the flamboyant parties as if she is on some “discount-cum-sale” offer or has an invisible tag “Any takers” or “bidders” for our daughter. In the end when Anju finally manages to find a guy for herself. Rohan comes down to meet Anju’s parents her father shows a kinda gratitude to Rohan by stating thanks for taking my daughter. I mean how any father say such a disgraceful thing bout his own daughter.
Are daughters still considered as a liability?? November 06 Shopping EndeavorsCome fesitives and all the shops will be flashing signs of "festive offers" . And I am all set on my shopping spree. The problem here is most of the stuff that I set my eyes on will either not fit me and they wont be having the required size or the color combo that I wish to buy..... and then I have this fleeting bouts of low-self esteem the reason mainly is that most of the clothes i chose to buy are either out of stock or my size doesnt exists..... they'll probably have all possible sizes except the one i want to buy. And to add to the misery, these guyz have come up with exclusive range of collection which caters exclusively to fatter women (i hav recently joined this clan) and to add to the humiliation further these brands are displayed in bold letters "XL", "XXL", "XXXXL". So every time I am trying to find something that i will fit into, all these skinny looking or to be more articulate these anoresic gurlz will be looking down upon me.... sad uh! The sad part of fashion line is the sizes across brands r not standardised what is 'Medium' for brand A will be 'Large' for brand B .........
I walk out of the store with the new diet plan already running at the back of my mind that i am going work on in order to fit myself (forcibly) into my new acquisition. Sensitivity IndexGiving spaces..... how often do we give others their space.... there are so many times that we are not even aware that we are stepping into others space.... we just start assuming things... the "sab chalta hai mode" we just assume that its okie! I often hear frm my friends and in general that, 'I am a very sensitive person' or 'dont mess with her/him' or 'that person is sensitive' .. but how many times do these "Sensitive" people actually take care of others sensitivity. In pampering their own egos they start taking others emotions for a ride... All relations are based on a give and take basis... but when being with these kind of pple u eventually being in the position where u are the one whoze giving all the time..... nd then u patiently wait for the last straw.... :(
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